Why Do Independent Women Want to be Dominated in Bed?

 When choosing to pose for boudoir photography, LA women come from all different types of backgrounds. It can be fascinating to explore the female sexual psyche and what makes women attracted to potential mates, as discussed in The Frisky http://www.thefrisky.com/2009-05-29/why-independent-women-like-to-be-dominated/.

Consider the typical strong and independent woman, and she seems to be a bit of an enigma. The woman has graduated from college and possibly additional schooling, and she has a career in her chosen field of interest. She has a house and a car, both of which she funds yourself. The woman is neither a pushover nor a wallflower. She is the embodiment of free-thinking independence, intelligence, and personal strength (all traits that an expert LA boudoir photographer can capture in an empowering shoot).

One thing, though, seems out of place: the woman fantasizes about being sexually dominated. Why?

Research on women & sexual dominance

I met future psychology journalist Matthew Hutson on the staff of the humor magazine at Brown University. He was the news editor for Psychology Today for years, and he wrote a couple of researched articles on the topic of sexual dominance while at PT. He wrote one about erotic rape fantasies in women http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/psyched/200805/why-do-women-have-erotic-rape-fantasies and another on the more general topic of attraction to male sexual dominance http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/psyched/200905/why-dominant-women-enjoy-sexual-submission-fantasies-part-1.

His findings may be of interest to those seeking LA boudoir photography as a way to express their femininity and sexuality.

Professor Patricia Hawley of the University of Kansas, along with her student William Hensley, conducted a study that was published in the Journal of Sex Research in 2009 http://www.people.ku.edu/~phawley/Publications/HawleyHensley_JSR_%202009.pdf. It focused on on sexual fantasies that involved force. Both men and women read erotica that vicariously placed them in either the dominant or submissive role (roles that women sometimes want to explore in LA boudoir photography solo shoots).

Here is a sample of the submissive-role erotica women read during the study:

“Your breathing quickens as you attempt to draw away, but he grasps your arm like a vice and it sends a shudder through your body. He pins you against the wall and presses his mouth firmly against yours. As your resistance fades, it becomes clear to you that this is only going one way."

The dominant-role erotica was identical except that the reader was placed in the reverse position: “His breathing quickens as he attempts to draw away, but you …,” etc.

Men were given the same two types of erotica, with all text the same except for the gender of the pronouns.

Men and women both favored the erotica in which the opposite partner was being dominant. It may seem strange that men appreciate the submission fantasy just as much as women do. The authors of the study postulated that the fantasy is attractive to men because when the woman is aggressive (as when showing her confidence with an LA boudoir photographer shoot), the man sidesteps fear of rejection.

Finally, the study sought to determine how dominant the participants were in their everyday lives and how that trait affected outcomes. Social dominance was gauged by interviews in which the men and women were asked what types of tactics they used to control various resources and situations: cooperative or coercive. Here are the results:

  • Socially dominant men gave higher ratings to dominance fantasies than did socially submissive men.
  • Socially dominant and socially submissive men gave the same ratings to submission fantasies.
  • Socially dominant women gave higher ratings to submission fantasies than did socially submissive women.
  • Socially dominant and socially submissive women gave the same ratings to dominance fantasies.

In other words, all else is equal, but socially dominant men and socially dominant women should realize that they are strongly fantasizing about the same thing: dominant/submissive sex with the man “on top.”

For boudoir photography, LA women can benefit from a photographer who can go beyond the frame. Vivian’s Muse head photographer Julia Vie’s work is featured in Rolling Stone magazine and the Austin American-Statesman. She is also a certified life coach, focused on empowering her clients throughout each consultation and shoot.

By Kent Roberts https://plus.google.com/u/0/102727328455346547569?rel=author